Outfit idea: T'avais mis ta robe légère



Sometimes you can't get the most peculiar earworm out of your head: T'avais mis ta robe légère... It's in part because of this adorable French song that I keep dreaming of the most perfect dress for summer. A lightweight number in which to gracefully meet the sunshine and high temperatures. This floral off the shoulder dress from Zaful would fit the bill nicely! It's a piece so easy to wear: you could pair it with comfortable sneakers and a straw bag for sitting under a cherry tree like it says in the song but you can easily dress it up with a pair of tan heels and a small pink bag. The dress also comes in grey and blue colorway and I just can't make up my mind which version I like more...

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Outfit: To have a good hand

It was my 32nd birthday yesterday. It's also a date that marks fourth year of this little blog. Boy, I did not think it would bring me where I am right now. A lot of things have changed since I started: my style clarified and it's constantly evolving, the blogging community changed and shifted to other platforms, I switched up the way I interact with people online concerning the blog-related stuff... not to mention my personal life has been all over the place. It's only been four years and yet, things never stay the same.


I think I am beginning to understand what change means to me and I am learning ways to approach it. I can handle small, day to day stuff that demands flexibility and quick adaptation of plans and schedules to life, as it happens independently of them. What I'm not comfortable with are big changes. They overwhelm me and make me feel paralyzed for days and weeks and months. Some, for years. But --life has to go on. I have to go on. And so, I am devising ways to cope with troubling things. So far, I've been beating myself up for feeling bad and confused and hurt. It's so easy to tell myself that I'm not enough whatever, that I'm a failure and that I'm not worthy of anyone's attention.

With time and work, I'm starting to see how messed up this looped thinking is. I figure what I need is a good hand: a patient, gentle hand to put on my head when I'm not feeling well; a hand to take care of me and to let me see what is true and good and necessary and a hand that will promise me it's going to be ok and show me there is a way forward. I'm not looking for this hand outside of myself. I need to have it in me, this careful guardian to see me for who I am and help me hold onto that.

I compare it to caring for plants. I've never been a plant person because I couldn't remember to water them or nip their fallen flowers and decayed leaves. Frankly, I just didn't care. Recently, though, we've brought a few plants to our balcony and little by little, I am learning to give them my attention. To do the simple things. To watch for their needs and fulfill them. To mind and care. And then, in turn, to see them grow.

I'm wearing a vintage blouse and belt given to me by my Granny, thrifted vintage scarf and backpack (similar), shorts, Kopi necklace, flats (sold out, similar).

Photos by my boyfriend.


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Outfit: Her leaves


I am often drawn to ethereal dresses: chiffon or lace, flowy and translucent, airy and lightweight. By "drawn" I mean I love looking at them. I am well aware, though, that it's not a style I can pull off. I lack any kind of ethereal-ness in my facial and body features. Wearing a delicate piece of clothing, I don't do it justice --and neither does it me. I don't mind! It's simply good to be aware of what I have and what I don't, and to pick the pieces that suit me well. Where my features are sturdy enough to match lush velvet, gorgeous brocade and multi-dimensional jacquard with ease, someone else might look stunning in flowy, airy, pastel dresses that are reminiscent of mermaids and spirits and all things slightly out of this world.

So, nothing of the sort for me. But drawn I still am.

And so, I've always watched Chicwish with much awe and a great sigh. They have the most beautiful selection of soft, airy and chic dresses. I was thrilled when they contacted me and offered to send a piece of my choice. I knew there had to be something among all the ethereal pieces to match me, I just had to look. And I did find one most perfect dress: almost see through but still of a strong structure. Lace, yes (well, guipure to be exact), but in a definite shape of leaves and not too delicate. Light but not pastel --and with a sweet print of daffodills. This is one dainty look that I can pull off!

I'm wearing a dress c/o Chicwish, vintage flats, bag (sold out, similar, similar).


I'm wearing a dress c/o Chicwish, vintage flats, bag (sold out, similar, similar).

Photos by my boyfriend.


Outfit: Almost an adult


As I quickly approach my 32 birthday, I look back at how my style has changed in the past year and I wonder how it will change in the future. Don't get me wrong, I have no plans on steering away from my usual silhouette of fit and flare or loose top and fitted bottom. I love a good skirt into which to tuck a blouse and I would pick a dress instead of a pair of jeans any day. What I keep wondering about is the details, though. The prints, the colours and the accessories. May I wear a cutesy combo of pink and blue? Can I pull off a silly novelty print? Does a bow in my hair become me? Or, more importantly, do I want to wear those things? Do I still like them?

Well, this outfit is the embodiment of my full answer: both the stubborn "yes!" and the silent but firm "no". The black, the shoes, the shirt... those all count as "adult" clothes in my book. Even my face seems kinda mature in all the black and with the bold lip. The print on my shirt, though... Well. You get the picture! I still want to add some whimsy to my everyday clothes. I guess as long as I consciously decide what makes me feel good and what defines me, it's all good. I wouldn't want to steer away from this perspective, ever.

I'm wearing a skirt I made, blouse c/o Shein (also available in white and short sleeved), necklace, yellow bag (sold out, similar, similar), old shoes (similar).



I'm wearing a skirt I made, blouse c/o Shein (also available in white and short sleeved), necklace, yellow bag (sold out, similar, similar), old shoes (similar).

Photos by my boyfriend.


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Outfit: To navigate is necessary


I made this skirt last year for my birthday. I was super lucky to score this vintage cotton that had the print going in a circle --obviously intended for sewing a circle skirt. It was a rare find and I was very happy to get it. I spotted a skirt made out of the same print (although in different colorway) in one of my 1970s/1980s Burdas so that dates it to back then. What I bought turned out to be three half-circle pieces that were hacked badly on one side. It took some fiddling but I was able to match the print nicely and make this rather full skirt! I love the colorful boats cruising on the water, with seagulls floating in the air above them. I have a thing for sailing-related prints and fashions. As of late, I also have a thing for sailing itself, in the literal sense but I also like to use it as a metaphor. You know, in my head, for personal associations. So, when I spotted the Handful of Magic necklace, one of the new pieces in Good Looking Objects' recent collection, I immediatelly thought of the Rose of the Winds. Surely, the star in the palm of the hand could be seen as a spark of magic but to me it said: to navigate is necessary. As I find myself in a moment of life where I am indeed starting to navigate and make my way in the world, I like to think of this necklace both as a reminder of my aims and as a talisman to aid me in achieving them. It is a thoroughly magical necklace after all!

I'm wearing a skirt I made from thrifted vintage cotton, vintage blouse, Good Looking Objects neckace, old backpack (similar style), old flats (similar), thrifted hat (similar).


I'm wearing a skirt I made from thrifted vintage cotton, vintage blouse, Good Looking Objects neckace, old backpack (similar style), old flats (similar), thrifted hat (similar).

Photos by my boyfriend.


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